All posts by Ridhima
Lesson from life
A frail old man went to live with his son, daughter-in-law and four year old grandson. The old man’s hands trembled, his eyesight was blurred and his step faltered. The family ate together at the table. But the elderly grandfather’s shaky hands and failing sight made eating difficult. Peas rolled off his spoon on to the floor. When he grasped the glass, milk spilled on the tablecloth.
The son and daughter-in-law became irritated with the mess. “We must do something about grandfather,” said the son. “I have had enough of his spilled milk, noisy eating, and food on the floor”. So the husband and wife set a small table in the corner. Their grandfather ate alone while the rest of the family enjoyed dinner. Since grandfather had broken a dish or two, his food was served in a wooden bowl. When the family glanced in grandfather’s direction, sometimes he had tear in his eye as he sat alone. Still the only word the couple had for him were sharp admonitions when he dropped a fork or spilled food. The four-year-old watched it all in silence. One evening before supper, the father noticed his son playing with the wood scraps on the floor.
He asked the child sweetly, “What are you making?” Just as sweetly the boy responded, “Oh, I am making a little bowl for you and Mama to eat your food in when I grow up.” The four-year-old smiled and went back to work.
The words so struck the parents that they were speechless. Then tears started to stream down their cheeks. Though no word was spoken, both knew what must be done. That evening the husband took grandfather’s hand and gently led him back to the family table. For the reminder of his days he ate every meal with the family. And for some reason, neither husband nor wife seemed to care any longer when a fork was dropped, milk spilled, or a tablecloth soiled.
How to carry a Burden?
Long long ago there lived a monarch who had twin sons. There was confusion about which one was born first. As they grew to young manhood, the king sought a fair way to designate one of them as crown prince.
All who knew the young men thought them equal in intelligence, wit, personal charm, health, and physical strength. Being a keenly observant king, he thought he detected a trait in one, which was not shared by the other.
Calling them to his council chamber one day, he said, “My sons, the day will come when one of you must succeed me as king. The burdens of sovereignty are very heavy. To find out which of you is better able to bear them cheerfully, I am sending to a far corner of the kingdom.
One of my advisors there will place equal burdens on your shoulders. My crown will one day go to the one who first returns bearing his burden like a king should.”
In a spirit of friendly competition, the brothers set out together. Soon they overtook an aged woman struggling under a burden that deemed far too heavy for her frail body.
One of the boys suggested that they stop to help her. The other protested: “We have a burden of our own to worry about. Let us be on our way.” The objector hurried on while the other stayed behind to give aid to the old woman.
Along the road, from day to day, he found others who also needed help. A blind man took him miles out of his way, and a lame man slowed him to a cripples walk.
Eventually, he did reach his father’s advisor, where he secured his own burden and started home with it safely on his shoulders.
When he arrived at the palace, his brother met him at the gate, and greeted him with dismay. He said. ” I don’t understand, I told father the burden was too heavy to carry. How did you do it?” The future king replied thoughtfully, I suppose when I helped others to carry their burdens, I found strength to carry my own.”
Hammer and the nail
There was a little boy with a bad temper. His father gave him a bag of nails and told him that every time he lost his temper, to hammer a nail to the back fence. The first day the boy had driven 37 nails into the fence. Then it gradually dwindled down. He discovered it was easier to hold his temper than to drive those nails into the fence. Finally the day came when the boy didn’t lose his temper at all.
He told his father about it and the father suggested that the boy now pull out one nail for each day that he was able to hold his temper. The days passed and the young boy was finally able to tell his father that all the nails were gone. The father took his son by the hand and led him to the fence. You have done well, my son, but look at the holes in the fence. The fence will never be the same.
When you say things in anger, they leave a scar just like this one. You can put a knife in a man and draw it out, it wont matter how many times you say I’m sorry, the wound is still there. A verbal wound is as bad as physical one.
FAMILY- Real meaning!- too touchy!
F A M I L Y
I ran into a stranger as he passed by, “Oh excuse me please” was my reply. He said, “Please excuse me too;I wasn’t watching for you.” We went on our way and we said goodbye. We were very polite, this stranger and I..But a t home a different story is told. How we treat our loved ones, young and old. Later that day, cooking the evening meal, My son stood beside me very still. When I turned, I nearly knocked him down. “Move out of the way,” I said with a frown. I didn’t realize how harshly I’d spoken. He walked away, his little heart broken.
While I lay awake in bed, I heard a voice.God’s still small voice came to me and said,
You’ll find some flowers there by the door. “While dealing with a stranger,common courtesy you use, but the family you love, you seem to abuse.Go and look o n the kitchen floor,Those are the flowers he brought for you.He picked them himself: pink, yellow and blue.
you never saw the tears that filled his little eyes.” ” For moments I was shocked. I went to the kitchen And now my tears began to fall. In the morning I went to his room “Wake up, little one, wake up,” I said.
and he stood very quietly not to spoil the surprise, By this time, I felt very small,I quietly went and knelt by his bed; I moved with him to the kitchen and said “Are these the flowers you picked for me?” I picked ’em because they’re pretty like you. I said, “Son, I’m very sorry for the way I acted today; I said, “Son, I love you . He smiled, “I found ’em, out by the tree.
I knew you’d like ’em, especially the blue.” I said “I shouldn’t have yelled at you that way.” He said, “Oh, Dad, that’s okay.
I love you anyway.”
Are you aware that if we died tomorrow, the company that we are working for could easily replace us in a matter of days. But the family we left behind will feel the loss
for the rest of their lives. into work than into our own family,an unwise investment indeed, don’t you think?
So what is behind the story?
FAMILY = (F)ATHER (A)ND (M)OTHER (I) (L)OVE (Y)OU
Box full of kisses
The story goes that some time ago, a man punished his 3-year-old daughter for wasting a roll of gold wrapping paper. Money was tight and he became infuriated when the child tried to decorate a box to put under the Christmas tree. Nevertheless, the little girl brought the gift to her father the next morning and said, “This is for you, Daddy.”
The man was embarrassed by his earlier overreaction, but his anger flared again when he found out the box was empty. He yelled at her, stating, “Don’t you know, when you give someone a present, there is supposed to be something inside? The little girl looked up at him with tears in her eyes and cried, “Oh, Daddy, it’s not empty at all. I blew kisses into the box. They’re all for you, Daddy.”
The father was crushed. He put his arms around his little girl, and he begged for her forgiveness.
Only a short time later, an accident took the life of the child. It is also told that her father kept that gold box by his bed for many years and, whenever he was discouraged, he would take out an imaginary kiss and remember the love of the child who had put it there.
In a very real sense, each one of us, as humans beings, have been given a gold container filled with unconditional love and kisses…from our children, family members, friends, and God. There is simply no other possession, anyone could hold, more precious than this.
Attitude is everything
Many years ago, a large American shoe manufacturer sent two sales reps out to different parts of the Australian outback to see if they could drum up some business among the aborigines.
Some time later, the company received telegrams from both agents.
The first one said, “No business here…natives don’t wear shoes.”
The second one said, “Great opportunity here…natives don’t wear shoes!”
90/10 Principle : By Steven Covey
90/10 Principle : By Steven Covey
Have you read this before?
Discover the 90/10 Principle. It will change your life (at least the way you react to situations). What is this principle? 10% of life is made up of what happens to you. 90% of life is decided by how you react. What does this mean? We really have no control over 10% of what happens to us.
We cannot stop the car from breaking down. The plane will be late arriving, which throws our whole schedule off. A driver may cut us off in traffic. We have no control over this 10%. The other 90% is different. You determine the other 90%. How? By your reaction. You cannot control a red light. However, you can control your reaction. Do not let people fool you; YOU can control how you react.
Let us use an example:
You are eating breakfast with your family. Your daughter knocks over a cup of coffee onto your business shirt. You have no control over what just what happened. What happens when the next will be determined by how you react. You curse. You harshly scold your daughter for knocking the cup over. She breaks down in tears. After scolding her, you turn to your spouse and criticize her for placing the cup too close to the edge of the table. A short verbal battle follows. You storm upstairs and change your shirt. Back downstairs, you find your daughter has been too busy crying to finish breakfast and get ready for school. She misses the bus. Your spouse must leave immediately for work. You rush to the car and drive your daughter to school. Because you are late, you drive 40 miles an hour in a 30 mph speed limit. After a 15-minute delay and throwing $60 traffic fine away, you arrive at school. Your daughter runs into the building without saying goodbye. After arriving at the office 20 minutes late, you find you forgot your briefcase. Your day has started terrible. As it continues, it seems to get worse and worse. You look forward to coming home,When you arrive home, you find small wedge in your relationship with your spouse and daughter. Why? Because of how you reacted in the morning.
Why did you have a bad day? A) Did the coffee cause it? B) Did your daughter cause it? C) Did the policeman cause it? D) Did you cause it? The answer is “D”.
You had no control over what happened with the coffee. How you reacted in those 5 seconds is what caused your bad day. Here is
what could have and should have happened. Coffee splashes over you. Your daughter is about to cry. You gently say, “Its ok honey,
you just need, to be more careful next time”. Grabbing a towel, you rush upstairs. After grabbing a new shirt and your briefcase, you
come back down in time to look through the window and see your child
getting on the bus. She turns and waves. You arrive 5 minutes early and cheerfully greet the staff. Your boss comments on how good the day you are having. Notice the difference?
Two different scenarios. Both started the same. Both ended different. Why? Because of how you REACTED. You really do not
have any control over 10% of what happens. The other 90% was determined by your reaction. Here are some ways to apply the
90/10 principle. If someone says something negative about you, do not be a sponge. Let the attack roll off like water on glass. You
do not have to let the negative comment affect you! React properly and it will not ruin your day.
A wrong reaction could result in losing a friend, being fired, getting stressed out etc. How do you react if someone cuts you off in traffic? Do you lose your temper? Pound on the steering wheel? A friend of mine had the steering wheel fall Off) Do you curse? Does
your blood pressure skyrocket? Do you try to bump them? WHO CARES if you arrive ten seconds later at work? Why let the cars ruin your drive. Remember the 90/10 principle, and do not worry about it. You are told you lost your job. Why lose sleep and get irritated? It will work out. Use your worrying energy and time into finding another job. The plane is late; it is going to mangle your
schedule for the day. Why take out your frustration on the flight
attendant? She has no control over what is going on. Use your time
to study, get to know the other passenger. Why are stressed out? It will just make Things worse. Now you know the 90-10 principle. Apply it and you will be amazed at the results. You will lose nothing if you try it. The 90-10 principle is incredible. Very few know and apply this principle. The result? Millions of people are suffering from undeserved stress, trials, problems and heartache.
We all must understand and apply the 90/10 principle. It CAN change your life!
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WordPress Tricks to Improve Your Blog
Build a Featured Posts Section for WordPress
Magazine themes are becoming increasingly popular. There are plenty of quality premium themes available, and also some decent free magazine themes, but you may want to build or customize your own. This tutorial covers the process of coding the index.php file to set up a magazine-style front page with a featured post section.
WordPress Sidebar Turned Apple-Flashy Using jQuery UI
Sidebars are often pretty boring. If you’re looking to improve yours, this tutorial goes through the process of using jQuery that expands and reacts to user actions, similar to the Apple sidebar.
How to Make a Featured Post Carousel for WordPress
This tutorial will show you a different approach to displaying featured content. The technique is fairly simple, and can easily be applied to any blog that wants to give more exposure to certain content. This only requires a few coding changes to get the featured content in the carousel.
Building a Better Blogroll: Dynamic Fun with SimplePie and jQuery
This tutorial from Chris Coyier is not exclusively for WordPress, but this could easily the sidebar for many WordPress users. Blogrolls are common sidebar features, but with this tutorial Chris shows how the traditional blogroll can be taken a step further by bringing in feeds from other sites and blogs using SimplePie and jQuery. This technique is especially useful for those who run multiple blogs or a network.
Dynamic Highlight Menu
Nick La of Web Designer Wall has a post with a number of WordPress hacks, one of them being the dynamic highlight menu. Nick shows his approach for creating the navigation menu at Best Web Gallery that highlights the current location for visitors.
Two-Tiered Conditional Navigation
In this tutorial Darren Hoyt provides the code for creating a WordPress navigation menu that shows both parent pages and the relevant child pages. For sites and blogs that have a lot of content and pages, this trick can help to improve user experience.
WordPress Custom Fields: Laying Text Over Your Lead Graphic
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“Magazine-Style” Horizontal Dropdown Menu
Jean-Baptiste Jung shows another technique for improving the navigation of a WordPress site. The horizontal dropdown menu uses categories and sub-categories to create a magazine-style nav menu.
Integrate a Slideshow into Your WordPress Theme
Smooth Gallery is a MooTools gallery that can add some sizzle to a website. In this tutorial you’ll learn how to integrate Smooth Gallery with WordPress.
Adding Tabs to Your Blog Sidebar
If you’d like to improve your sidebar by adding some tabbed content/navigation areas, this tutorial covers the process of using Yahoo! TabView in your WordPress sidebar.
Create a “Send This to Twitter” Button
As Twitter continues to increase in popularity, integrating Twitter and WordPress will likely continue to become more common. This post isn’t really a tutorial, but it does give the code that you need to add a “send this to Twitter” link or button to your WordPress blog.
Plugins:
J Post Slider Plugin
With the J Post Slider Plugin gives WordPress users an easy way to add an attractive image slide show that can be controlled from the admin panel.
Lightview for WordPress
Lightview is similar to Lightbox. However, Lightview also works with videos and iframed web pages in addition to photos.
NextGEN Gallery
NextGEN Gallery is a full integrated Image Gallery plugin for WordPress with a Flash slideshow option.
Advanced Category Excluder
Advanced Category Excluder allows WordPress users to easily have CMS-like control over which content appears on the front page, in RSS feeds, archives and more.
Event Calendar 3
With Events Calendar 3 you can manage future events as an online calendar. Display upcoming events in a dynamic calendar, on a listings page, or as a list in the sidebar.
WP e-Commerce
WP e-Commerce is a highly useful plugin for bloggers or website owners who want to sell products from their site without a lot of work to set up an e-commerce site.
TDO Mini Forms
With TDO Mini Forms you can allow users to submit posts by completing a form. The posts are held in moderation until you choose to publish them.
FV Community News Plugin
Community news sections are popular among design blogs. This plugin will make it easy to accept and publish user submissions. There are a lot of options and control for the site owner or administrator.
Yoast Breadcrumbs
Breadcrumb navigation can be helpful for usability and SEO purposes. This plugin allows you to easily add plugins to your WordPress theme.
