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Happiness …I Searched, met , to be Conquered now..

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http://www.johnehrenfeld.com/radioactive-happiness-face.gifWhat is Happiness…. Why do we search for it… IS it that tought to be happy … To attain this feeling… to have some peace in mind? Why do we have to struggle a lot???

Happiness is one element everyone wants in life..Maybe we all don’t agree on ‘what it is’ and ‘ how can it be attained’ but our aims are same , just to reach it… Happiness is a personal matter , no matter what bad your past circumstances have been , no matter how your present conditions are , happiness is possible , you just have to get the right mindset… Most of us feel that those who have power, money and fame are the only people to be happy.. that ain’t the truth my friend…

Like a small going school boy thinks he will be happy if his Dad buys him a sports cycle. A teenage girl thinks she will be happy if she will have a husband like Brad Pitt!. A father thinks he will be happy when his kids star working. But that’s not true, it’s a false idea. Happiness is not a single issue concept.

Being humans , we say , happiness depends on situations that come in our life’s…but we forget that our reaction in those situations … makes the whole situation. How many of us have heard the theory of 90/10.

“ Lets visualize , a family at a morning breakfast table , Sitting together . Father , Mother in hurry to go to office, 8 year old kid doing the breakfast as well. Suddenly the kid spills the milk, some milk on dads shirt. , Now how this person reacted , lets view it ,

A) The dad gets up , shouts on the kid , shouts on the mother , changes his Shirt, keeps on mumbling, wife’ has a bad mood now and so has the kid. Wife goes to offc without any greetings. Dad drops kid to school and kid does not say bye even. The whole day the whole family has a bad mood.

B) The dad gets up in a bad mood ,but with a strict voice tells the kid to take care from next time when he is holding a glass and be cautious. Changes his shirt, wife greets and bids farewell. Drops kids to school with a sweet kiss on this cheek. Goes to office.

I am sure , you can yourself see, how we react to situations makes up the whole scenario. 90 percent is on our reactions , 10 percent is situation. The more balanced we react the better the situation gets.

Many times I have heard people saying ,” I want to be happy , but I cant be… Don’t know why…”.here comes an ego problem ….We already have soo many problems in our lyf’s which we cant control and on top of it…we do the most foolish act by augmenting more problems to it…we just need to bring those problem to surface and need to analyze , whats real and whts fake… Happiness is from within. If we decide to be happy , we will be , it is an internal force, and all great things start from inside , not outside.. Happiness is all about knowing the real you and accepting it. It’s about asking these questions to yourself… Who are you?, what are you capable of ? Are you deceiving yourself?. You have to answer yourself. No one else.

2 people looking from the same window , one saw the dust , other saw stars.. d difference is Vast!.

Many times our childhood fears cast a shadow on our personalities, but one must not run away from it… For example , a child who won a medal at school for cricket , rushes home to share his victory , but is treated with indifference will grow up being afraid of happiness. Many times we adapt an unconscious behavior , a defensive attitude ,towards happiness… as if we resist to open up and share… with oneself. The more we share our dreams , our inner desires with ourself , the more easy it is for us to be happy, to be candid with ourself. We must now worry what others are thinking abt us , as they are thinking the same t the time. What we think abt them!!!.

Emotional maturity is needed and is essential for happiness.. now by saying that I mean , knowing how to divert your energy . For example you had a bad day at office or at home , you feel like shouting , screaming , throwing things , etc, then better go to a videogame parlor , play a game , go for jogging , go for playing tennis or badminton , anything that wud divert ur mind and energy ,or maybe blogging . Utilizing your negative energy into a positive manner. That judges your emotional sensibility.

Life .. has so many moods..myraid colors… Laughter brings along soo many moments of warmth. Insecurity brings along moments of cold by giving sensations at heart. Anger brings along heat and sorry brings along sweetness. Witticism brings along cheerful smiles and seriousness brings along beautiful tears. It’ endless, one can keep on writing about the colors of life…

Reminiscing about the past, each one of us do that. Thinking about moments we have treasured in our lyf’s with our family , friends & loved one’s. Moments filled with sensual gratification. Sensual gratification is like ….

Using of our senses of the basic things that fills us with moments of happiness… How many of us.. now feel the wind talking, how many of us listen to birds chirping, how many of us take time out close our eyes and feel whats inside. How many of us want to listen to the real inner voice. Using our own senses for the basic things in lyf, can fill us with immense pleasure.

As if one morning you get up and see this little dewdrop in this winder … Looking at the tiny glistering dewdrop, which is nesteling it’s weary head against the velvet smoothness. The crimson color , basking in the sun…. looks amazig. We need to Cherish life , each moment , spread happiness, cheerfulness, good thoughts , do good deeds, not for anyone else , but for yourself.

It’s said somewhere that Happiness is a shy bird , dnt hunt for it , it would fly , so just keep a trap for it.

Always Remember “ Today is a last day of a part of your life”

God Bless You!

Intellect, Pain

PARENTS…what do they want from children?

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This was narrated at a Seminar recently on Human Relations :

Venkatesh Balasubramaniam (who works for IIT) describes how his gesture of booking an air ticket for his father, his maiden
flight, brought forth a rush of emotions and made him (Venkatesh) realize that how much we all take for granted when it comes to our parents.

My parents left for our native place on Thursday and we went to the airport to see them off. In fact, my father had never traveled by air before, so I just took this opportunity to make him experience the same. In spite of being asked to book tickets by train, I got them tickets on Jet Airways.
 
The moment I handed over the tickets to him, he was surprised to see that I had booked them by air. The excitement was very apparent on his face, waiting for the time of travel. Just like a school boy, he was preparing himself on that day and we all went to the airport, right from using the trolley for his luggage, the baggage check-in and asking for a window seat and waiting restlessly for the security check-in to happen. He was thoroughly enjoying himself and I, too, was overcome with joy watching him experience all these things.

As they were about to go in for the security check-in, he walked up to me with tears in his eyes and thanked me. He became very emotional and it was not as if I had done something great but the fact that this meant a great deal to him. When he said thanks, I told him there was no need to thank me. But later, thinking about the entire incident, I looked back at my life.
 
As a child, how many dreams our parents have made come true. Without understanding the financial situation, we ask for cricket bats, dresses, toys, outings, etc. Irrespective of their affordability, they have catered to all our needs. Did we ever think about the sacrifices they had to make to accommodate many of our wishes? Did we ever say thanks for all that they have done for us?
 
Same way, today when it comes to our children, we always think that we should put them in a good school. Regardless of the amount of donation, we will ensure that we will have t give the child the best, theme parks, toys, etc. But we tend to forget that our parents have sacrificed a lot for our sake to see us happy, so it is our responsibility to ensure that their dreams are realized and what they failed to see when they were young. It is our responsibility to ensure that they experience all those and their life is complete.

Many times, when my parents had asked me some questions, I have actually answered back without patience. When my daughter asks me something, I have been very polite in answering. Now I realize how they would have felt at those moments. Let us realize that old age is a second childhood and just as we take care of our children, the same attention and same care needs to be given to our parents and elders. Quality time and politely answering them with out making them wait is important. Now I realize that I must look at their eyes and answer them pleasantly and pretend to be reading papers and answer in mono syllables. Rather than my dad saying thank you to me, I would want to say sorry for making him wait so long for this small dream. I do realize how much he has sacrificed for my sake and I will do my best to give the best possible attention to all their wishes.

Just because they are old does not mean that they will have to give up everything and keep sacrificing for their grandchildren also. They have wishes, too.

Take care of your parents. THEY ARE PRECIOUS.

Intellect, Pain

Parents… Touching story…

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An 80 year old man was sitting on the sofa in his house along with his 45 years old highly educated son. Suddenly a crow perched on their window.

The Father asked his Son, “What is this?”

The Son replied “It is a crow”.

After a few minutes, the Father asked his Son the 2nd time, “What is this?”

 

The Son said “Father, I have just now told you “It’s a crow”.

After a little while, the old Father again asked his Son the 3rd time,

What is this?”

At this time some ex-pression of irritation was felt in the Son’s tone when he said to his Father with a rebuff. “It’s a crow, a crow”.

A little after, the Father again asked his Son t he 4th time, “What is this?”

This time the Son shouted at his Father, “Why do you keep asking me the same question again and again, although I have told you so many times ‘IT IS A CROW’. Are you not able to understand this?”

A little later the Father went to his room and came back with an old tattered diary, which he had maintained since his Son was born. On opening a page, he asked his Son to read that page. When the son read it, the following words were written in the diary :-

“Today my little son aged three was sitting with me on the sofa, when a crow was sitting on the window. My Son asked me 23 times what it was, and I replied to him all 23 times that it was a Crow. I hugged him lovingly each time h e asked me the same question again and again for 23 times. I did not at all feel irritated I rather felt affection for my innocent child”.

While the little child asked him 23 times “What is this”, the Father had felt no irritation in replying to the same question all 23 times and when today the Father asked his Son the same question just 4 times, the Son felt irritated and annoyed.

So..

If your parents attain old age, do not repulse them or look at them as a burden, but speak to them a gracious word, be cool, obedient, humble and kind to them. Be considerate to your parents.From today say this aloud, “I want to see my parents happy forever. They have cared for me ever since I was a little child. They have always showered their selfless love on me.

They crossed all mountains and valleys without any problem to make me a person presentable in the society today”.

Say a prayer to God, “I will serve my old parents in the BEST way. I will say all good and kind words to my dear parents, no matter how they behave”.